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The SW30: Day 4 ~ Your Biggest Fear as a Single Person


Wow. . . this is something. 

I honestly think my biggest fear is settling.  The first thing I thought of was simply settling when it comes down to the guy that I would be with.  As I mentioned in Day 1's post, I don't want to be with someone. . . just for the sake of being 'in a relationship.' I would hope that he and I would be able to bring out the best in each other, support one another's endeavors and grow together.

Recently, I've been thinking about how people- especially females are guilty of voluntarily handicapping themselves (yes- I made that up lol). In reality, they are in denial. It's like you hear what the person is telling you; you see what they're doing but you want to pretend that their words and actions have alternative meanings. "They don't really mean that. . .  They just don't know. . . They'll change. . ."

I love the way that Trent Shelton addresses this:

Something that I really try to emphasize to my L.O.V.E.ly Ladies  is remembering their worth. There is more to a healthy and meaningful relationship than butterflies. . . (but that's a post for another time). If you're seriously not comfortable with the behaviors that the person you're with is exhibiting, MOVE ON! (You can read some of my other thoughts about relationships, etc. HERE)
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Anyway, I also do not want to settle in my life/experiences in general.  I have to remind myself of what I deserve.  I try to evaluate things every now and then and ask myself. . . "Am I benefiting from this situation? Is this [person] helping me to grow?" If it is- okay but if it not, you better believe some changes will be made. Why subject yourself to something that is tearing you down instead of building you up??? Evaluate things and then govern yourself accordingly.  Keep it moving!

I've had this line in the back of my mind for years (it's on my email too) and the words are the truth!
**Never settle for less than what you deserve because you'll end up 
with LESS than what you settled for!**

Another thing-> I don't understand why some people act like their life has less value because they're not in a relationship {smh}.  Everyone is capable of making a difference! We have been created by God for a reason!  And we all can have exciting experiences- with or without a significant other. This life is what YOU make it & I want to show God that I appreciate this gift! If you can't enjoy life by yourself, what makes you think that someone will enjoy it with you?


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  1. AnonymousNovember 12, 2013 at 7:33 PM

    Love this post!! I totally agree that people settle ... my fav expression is, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." Truly!

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    1. Kara L. FrisonNovember 12, 2013 at 7:37 PM

      Thanks for reading, Amanda! I'm glad you liked it... And that quote→ advice to LIVE BY ;-)

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