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The SW30: Day 1 ~ And Why Are You Still Single?

Apparently, I like a good challenge. . . a good writing challenge ;-).

In May of 2012, I began a Journal Challenge that I read about on Heather Lindsey's blog.  And today, I decided to get back on track with my blog & start "The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge" by Mandy Hale.

I kind of debated about doing this but I'm a fairly open book so here goes. . .

Day 1: And Why Are You Still Single?

As I type this, I'm laughing to myself for a couple of reasons. 1) I don't really get asked this a lot (I think people know better lol). 2) I don't think I've really thought about an answer to this question until now.

Anyway, I guess my super-deep (yet not-so-deep) answer could be-> because I'm supposed to be [single] at the moment. I understand that God has a plan for all of our lives and we learn/grow from every situation that we experience.

I think everything I've dealt with will simply prepare me for what's to come. I remember being in high school/college and telling my friends that the *interesting* guys I've encountered would only cause me to appreciate the "right one" even more when he arrives. And I believe that to be true.

Here's another thought: I think that some of us get so wrapped up in the 'idea' of love/marriage that we don't really consider the work it requires and the reality of the situation. So while I think I'd be decent as a wife, maybe I still have some things to work on.

On the other hand, I feel like I'm at a place in my life where I'm really focusing on God's Will for my life. I'm steadily trying to inspire and encourage women through my organization- Ladies of Virtue. . . Empowered!  Now, it's very possible that I could work on this while also being someone's wife but it's definitely easier for me be able to devote so much of my time and energy to this endeavor without worrying about whether I had a husband who was feeling neglected.

Oh- I almost forgot! Rather than getting asked {why are you single}, someone asked me "Do you even want to get married??? You seem like you're extremely independent." Haha! I'd say that's accurate but to answer their question-> yes, I'd love to! However I'll survive if I don't ;-). Marriage is something that I take extremely seriously so I'm not going to marry anybody just to 'have someone.' I want to be at peace with my decision to spend the rest of my life with someone.

We'll see what happens. . .

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